First step is accepting the fact that your date did not show up. He or she didn’t show up because they didn’t want to. Let’s say your date was running late, he or she would probably call, unless they weren’t planning on meeting you. If it’s a no call no show, it means you were stood up. It happens to best of us, accept it. That’s the only way you can move past the fact that you were stood up. Whatever you do, do not call your date and ask why you were stood up. Let it be a lesson learned and know that whoever your date was that stood you up is not worth your time.
The second step is embarrassment; it is embarrassing when you and your date plan on meeting at a public place such as a restaurant or a bar and your date does not show up. Especially, if you two planned on meeting at a romantic place. You might feel less awkward if you two had planned on meeting at a pool hall or a bar. The embarrassment might not be that bad if you were stood up and this was only the second or third date. In reality, if that is the case you shouldn’t feel too embarrassed since you both don’t know each other too well. Either way the level of embarrassment varies depending how many dates you both have been on, the place of where he or she stood you up and if how much you liked your date. It’s always embarrassing if you and your date are on different levels of feelings. The more you like your date the level of embarrassment will be higher if you were stood up.
The third step is anger, no matter how angry or hurt you are; do not damage any of your belongings such as your phone or a mirror. Your phone is worth more than the person who stood you up. Damaging things or throwing things around might ease your anger at the moment but after you have calmed down you will probably realize that it was stupid of you to ruin your phone or whatever it is that you decided to break. Let out your anger by calling a friend, go for a walk, or play video games. Channel your anger into something positive.
The fourth step is moving on, move on and be happy. You are not a victim and there is plenty of fish in the sea. Obviously if your date stood you up, it means they just weren’t that into you. It doesn’t mean that you should never date again or trust anyone. Not everyone is going to like you and you are not going to like everyone you meet. It doesn’t feel good to be stood up but that doesn’t mean it is the end of the world.
Finally, the last step is why me, “why me?” you might ask yourself, and you’ll probably start thinking that it was your fault that he or she stood you up. You might never know why you got stood up, it might be something you said or it might not be you at all. It might have been your date. Instead of asking yourself “WHY” just be glad your date stood you up, he or she saved you a lot of time now you can cross him or her off your list and know for sure that the relationship would have gone anywhere.
These are just the simple steps you can do to deal with being stood up, but at the end you will figure out that it was for the best. Don’t be too hard on yourself, just accept the fact that you were stood up, face the embarrassment, take your anger out in positive ways such as going for a walk or a jog, get over it and move on, chances are you not the only one who has ever gotten stood up, and do not question yourself as to why your date stood you up. Being stood up is not fun and can damage a person but it is how you deal with it. If you act like it is the end of the world then it will be. If you stay positive, everything will work out at the end.
"5 Stages of Dealing with Being Stood up - CNN.com." CNN.com - Breaking News, U.S., World, Weather, Entertainment & Video News. 29 Nov. 2010. Web. 29 Nov. 2010.
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